One of our readers, and if I may boast a little,
truly great friend, has been engaging us and acting upon her desires to clean up, and simplify her life. She reached a moment of clarity over a skin care product. Before I share, there is something you should know about our friend Christine. She is an early bird. She wakes up when its dark, has a commute that most people would cringe at to get to her job in the city, and usually has time to crank out a household chore or two, as well as hitting the gym before the day is upon us. So while most of us are hustling just to make time to enjoy our morning tea, or coffee, know that she is out there making her life better on small step at a time. The thing is, our truest epiphanies don't come from clever writings by our favorite blogger, or even books with brilliant authors, not even from time tested musings of ancient philosophers. They come from the little actions we force ourselves to turn into habits, which is what
our coaching focuses on. That is where our real breakthroughs emerge.
Doing is the catalyst for change. Christine writes this about one of hers this way:
I’ve spent the morning pondering and justifying.
I’m part of an ongoing discussion/quest about downsizing, minimalism, reducing my personal consumerism.
So, this morning, as I’m getting ready and purging the mess that is my make up cabinet/drawer…my mind was wandering.
I threw out a moisturizer I absolutely hated.
I’d been keeping it and FORCING myself to use it, because that’s the responsible thing to do, right?
Wasteful to throw the product out, I’ll need to replace it with SOMETHING else…so just suck it up sister.
Nope, I chucked it….and instantly heaved a sigh of relief, even with incurring the cost of replacement.
It did raise a few thoughts for me though.
So often, I think, decluttering focuses on “stuff”, the unuseful mythical monster that steals our spaces and our time dealing with it.
In my head, that’s always been objects, like that ugly lamp or the figurines….or your momma’s rock/tree bark collection , etc., etc., etc..
But what about what we’ve labeled as useful, practical, etc.?
It’s not just about purging the excess….it’s about purging what is no longer useful /wanted/needed.
It’s not just about clearing your physical space, but also your mental one.
Sometimes the catalyst is a huge life event, break up, loss, mid life crisis and sometimes it’s just a slow realization that you need to change your environment.
CS respond that for her: "hanging onto skincare can carry over into holding onto a lot of things I didn't want, didn't use, and that took up a lot of place-space and head space. As for the emotional stuff... when I finally internalized "there is no closure" it was life changing. I wasn't always going to get that last goodbye."
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