So. Let's say you're living with very little because you've wised up and realized your needs don't have to weigh you down so much. Living with little has saved you money, and in your simplicity your family budget starts to feel affluent. Your mortgage is going to be paid off early. You're out of debt. Your buying needs are minimal. You are living the dream, and you can financially support your kids, better than your parents could for you. This is worth celebration, or it should be but...
The catch is that you notice they might be losing touch with the gratitude for the bare minimum that you held so dear in your own life. You don't want them to fall into the trap.
This is one idea from guest writer Elizabeth Di Grazia
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Entitlement is not a disease that I suffer from. In 1970, I was one of the kids who in middle school stood in the principal’s office amidst a tangle of classmates wondering why I was there. I was no stranger to the principal’s office. However, as I looked around at the others gathered, I wondered what our connection was. The Principal explained that a free lunch program started, and the ones gathered would be receivers of this new subsidy for low income families. Sweeping the small room with my eyes, I took stock. Two students were my siblings, the other seven were from families in our small town and farming community. We all knew each other. We were the ones on the fringes. It wasn’t difficult in our small community to know where you were on the economic ladder.
There wasn’t any money for a letterman’s jacket, yearbook, or class pictures. You knew what you could and couldn’t ask for at Christmas time. I never expected any inheritance from my parents. They simply didn’t have the money.
Jody and I feel blessed and fortunate for what we have. We truly are the lucky ones who have enough in this world.
Our teenage children also have enough. They don’t lack for anything. As well as having jobs, they have parents who like to give to them.
They have the letterman jackets, the yearbooks, the mopeds, and spending money.
Sometimes they feel entitled. They want for more.
This is when we stop. Give pause. In a way that isn’t too overbearing, too apparent, or overt, we seek to bring to their attention what they have. We want them to feel fortunate and blessed like we do. The best way we have found is to say, “No”. Or, “Use your own money from your job”. Or, “Write a letter what you are grateful for”. Or, “Fill a bag with toys, clothes, or whatever you are asking for to give away before we buy anything new”. Or, “Look around at others in your school and your community and notice the disparity”.
Our 4 trips to Guatemala, their birth country, have helped. We don’t need to say anything. They see what we see. As soon as we leave the airport, all of us are shocked into another reality.
This past Christmas, instead of opening presents on Christmas Eve, we played a grateful game.
Though that isn’t what we called it. It was simply a game. The four of us joined together for a round robin of what we received during the year without it being on our birthday or holiday. Jody and I wanted the children to acknowledge all that they are blessed with. There was plenty.
Spring vacation Florida trip, South Dakota summer vacation, mopeds, helicopter rides, hot air balloon rides, Everglades airboat ride, jet ski rides, letterman jacket, updates to our house, etc.
Prior to our round robin, we did open one gift. A family values lazy susan. Words of wisdom, love and encouragement are colorfully displayed on this decorative table centerpiece. It would be great if this simple reminder would leave the teens feeling full of gratitude all year long. I doubt it.
That’s when we can pause. Stop. And, start counting our blessings.
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As you become more successful, how will you pass down your ideals of humility, small carbon footprint, and living well within your means?
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