CS and I went to the Minneapolis Institute of Art on Sunday for a dreary day activity out and about. Usually we'd prefer a long hike at a wild park, but its November, cold, wet, windy, and otherwise inimical weather. No matter how many times I visit the museum, and how many times I wander down the same halls, the non rotating works of art always seem to grab me in different ways.
This time it was a 6000 year old cup set. This was not a ornamental, or gaudy cup of kings. It was pretty, but it was plain. This cup was built for functionality and nothing more. It got me thinking about all the cups I've owned just in my lifetime, and how many times I've thrown perfectly good cups away because I found new cups.
you considered how much of the things in your life have gone through the revolving door of consumerism? I don't know the complete history of that cup in the museum, and if I were to guess, I'd say it was owned for an entire life, and was perhaps passed down through generations within one family. Imagine your unborn great-great-great-great grandchild using a cup for their entire life, and that cup was the first and only cup you ever used. Imagine if that cup never went out of style simply because it fulfilled its purpose.
I have jar glasses, coffee mugs, and stemware at home right now (2 of each, one for CS and one for me), and that 6000 year old cup made me feel like a greedy bastard as it held my gaze.
Tuesday, November 14, 2017
Wednesday, November 8, 2017
How: Volume 2 - Time Engineering
People might budget their income in differing ways, and almost all of us do it. However, not many people take control of time, which has always baffled me. Money is not more important than time. A person can always do a little extra to earn more money, but the day doesn't ever get any longer. "If time be of all things the most precious, wasting time must be the greatest prodigality." -Benjamin Franklin.
Below is my 6 step process to be a Time Engineer
1. Mobilize
For so many people, getting fired up in the morning to attack a fresh day is as simple as a cup of coffee. I believe there is something within us that is deeper, and more sustaining, that keeps us wanting to move forward. I also believe that it is different for everyone, like being ticklish. A button gets pushed just right and the reaction is this stored kinetic energy response, and each person has unique buttons. A jogger might have specific music that pushes them on the last mile. A painter might get inspired by some random event, and create a masterpiece. Its important to know what fires you up, and to use it.
2. Clarity of Plan
{Know Thyself} The reason its so important to frequently practice self reflection, is because the life we're living is our own. We are the masters of our destiny, and yet, we love to look to others. We love our heroes, and our celebrities, even our neighbors, (at least some of them). If we don't keep a close watch on who we are, we might mimic too much. We jump in the flow of the mainstream, and we leisurely swim with all the others. Before we know it, we're lost, but comfortable, living everyone else' lives but our own. Three questions I ask, when analyzing myself to plan my week:
What is the integrity of my character?
What balanced relationships nourish my well being?
What accomplishments must I make to complete my story?
3. Accept the truth
Look. We all know the story of Aladdin's lamp, so let me just be straight. You can't have everything, every time you want it; that always leads to humility at best, and disaster at worst. So, accept the fact that the reason your schedule is cramped is because you are probably trying to do everything. In entrepreneurial business, a guideline often referred to is the 80/20 rule. What it means is that 20% of activity generates 80% of results, and vice-versa. So accept that some of the most important things you need to do, will greatly impact your life, and don't take that much time, and some activities are just crap. Accept that you need to figure out how to prioritize better. We all do.
4. Learn to Say, "NO"
Those things that aren't so important, we need to be able to turn away from. Sometimes its saying 'no' to ourselves by way of self discipline. Sometimes it means actually saying 'no' to a friend, or loved one, who wants some of our time when we weren't planning on giving it. Either of these can be very difficult to do. Personally, I struggle more with the self discipline, but others might have a harder time dealing with others. Either way, we need to train ourselves to be better at saying 'no' to distractions, and saying 'yes' to living within our own schedule.
5. Ready to Write It Down?
If we've followed the above 4 guidelines we've determined who we are, and what we want, and how to effectively go about getting it, including cutting out the unwanted waste. Now we need to make sense of our goals and set them as blocks of time. We need to organize small steps that will lead us to our larger goals. What do we want to get done this year? month? week? Day? I do this every late fall. The plan for the upcoming year starts January 1 and should sustain me until next year. I plan big too. I don't always accomplish everything, but I do it anyway. If I'm going through this process, why would I plan small and boring? Even if I succeed, I win a mediocre consolation prize? No. Plan big. I plan to make my dreams come true.
I write down everything I want for a year, then I separate it into 12 parts for the months. Some things are mathematically easy. For example: if I wanted to save $12K, obviously, I need to sock away 1K per month, 250 per week, 50 per day. Some things only need to happen once, like clear out the garage. maybe I'll plug that one into 1/12 and have it be a project for the month of May. You get the idea. And I hope you know you should have a big list. Remember you can fail at some of this, and a lot can get done in a year, so take your time, think it through, and plan an awesome life.
**Don't forget to write down your fun, as a matter of fact, this is first on my list, because no rest and no joy creates burnout. Plan to take vacation. Plan to take time for a loved one everyday. Plan to relax. Plan to get fired up each day. Then plan to work, and after work, don't forget to plan to reflect, so you can plan some more.**
Next, I break the 12 months into 4 weeks each, and so on, breaking those 4 parts into 5 days, keeping in mind the 80/20 rule. I plan the most effective things first. Now I have small daily tasks that, when organized into a bigger picture, add up to a really good year.
To answer a nit-picky question, "No, I don't know what I am doing on Wednesday the 14th of July already." I just know that I have approximately 5 work days, and 2 play days, and projects that need to get done, and goals I want to reach, so that I can build my ultimate life. I might know that May is intended to be garage cleaning month, but for the most part, the daily chores have some flexibility. Its planned to accommodate surprises.
A year long goal is too big to focus on in one day, but just one part of a set of building blocks that add up is easy. And I want my day to be easy. Its not set in stone, its just a map to stay on course. So, when I fail to complete the garage clean out in May, I carry the remainder over to June, and then things really get hectic, so I assess the damages, and make a few sacrifices if needed, and I carry on. The thing is, I remember what is important, and I choose when to work extra, or maybe even dump something until next year if I'm overwhelmed. What I don't do, is blindly give in to my devices, thus giving control back to the mundane everyman in the mainstream.
Try this for yourself, and you'll be amazed how much you can achieve in a year. I also think you'll be amazed to find out how much you could have achieved last year, had you already been creating a plan, and how much time you wasted doing the 80% that didn't matter all that much.
So you have a plan written down, and if you're like me, you may have revised it and edited some things. Now you can put it away until it begins, (in my case January), and when that date arrives...
6. Return to step 1 and Execute Your Plan
Step 1 was mobility. If you'r going to accomplish the big year, you'll need that coffee, or music, or other inspiration each day. You have to follow through. Even if it is imperfect, and falls a little short, like mine does every year, at least you'll know where you stand , and where you're going. When you don't know where you stand, and you don't remind yourself of your goals, and what you want your year to look like, you'll get lost in the mainstream with all the other numb fish, doing what all the other little fishies do. That isn't how dreams are made. Execute. Execute. Execute. Fail, and execute regardless.
Below is my 6 step process to be a Time Engineer
1. Mobilize
For so many people, getting fired up in the morning to attack a fresh day is as simple as a cup of coffee. I believe there is something within us that is deeper, and more sustaining, that keeps us wanting to move forward. I also believe that it is different for everyone, like being ticklish. A button gets pushed just right and the reaction is this stored kinetic energy response, and each person has unique buttons. A jogger might have specific music that pushes them on the last mile. A painter might get inspired by some random event, and create a masterpiece. Its important to know what fires you up, and to use it.
2. Clarity of Plan
{Know Thyself} The reason its so important to frequently practice self reflection, is because the life we're living is our own. We are the masters of our destiny, and yet, we love to look to others. We love our heroes, and our celebrities, even our neighbors, (at least some of them). If we don't keep a close watch on who we are, we might mimic too much. We jump in the flow of the mainstream, and we leisurely swim with all the others. Before we know it, we're lost, but comfortable, living everyone else' lives but our own. Three questions I ask, when analyzing myself to plan my week:
What is the integrity of my character?
What balanced relationships nourish my well being?
What accomplishments must I make to complete my story?
3. Accept the truth
Look. We all know the story of Aladdin's lamp, so let me just be straight. You can't have everything, every time you want it; that always leads to humility at best, and disaster at worst. So, accept the fact that the reason your schedule is cramped is because you are probably trying to do everything. In entrepreneurial business, a guideline often referred to is the 80/20 rule. What it means is that 20% of activity generates 80% of results, and vice-versa. So accept that some of the most important things you need to do, will greatly impact your life, and don't take that much time, and some activities are just crap. Accept that you need to figure out how to prioritize better. We all do.
4. Learn to Say, "NO"
Those things that aren't so important, we need to be able to turn away from. Sometimes its saying 'no' to ourselves by way of self discipline. Sometimes it means actually saying 'no' to a friend, or loved one, who wants some of our time when we weren't planning on giving it. Either of these can be very difficult to do. Personally, I struggle more with the self discipline, but others might have a harder time dealing with others. Either way, we need to train ourselves to be better at saying 'no' to distractions, and saying 'yes' to living within our own schedule.
5. Ready to Write It Down?
If we've followed the above 4 guidelines we've determined who we are, and what we want, and how to effectively go about getting it, including cutting out the unwanted waste. Now we need to make sense of our goals and set them as blocks of time. We need to organize small steps that will lead us to our larger goals. What do we want to get done this year? month? week? Day? I do this every late fall. The plan for the upcoming year starts January 1 and should sustain me until next year. I plan big too. I don't always accomplish everything, but I do it anyway. If I'm going through this process, why would I plan small and boring? Even if I succeed, I win a mediocre consolation prize? No. Plan big. I plan to make my dreams come true.
I write down everything I want for a year, then I separate it into 12 parts for the months. Some things are mathematically easy. For example: if I wanted to save $12K, obviously, I need to sock away 1K per month, 250 per week, 50 per day. Some things only need to happen once, like clear out the garage. maybe I'll plug that one into 1/12 and have it be a project for the month of May. You get the idea. And I hope you know you should have a big list. Remember you can fail at some of this, and a lot can get done in a year, so take your time, think it through, and plan an awesome life.
**Don't forget to write down your fun, as a matter of fact, this is first on my list, because no rest and no joy creates burnout. Plan to take vacation. Plan to take time for a loved one everyday. Plan to relax. Plan to get fired up each day. Then plan to work, and after work, don't forget to plan to reflect, so you can plan some more.**
Next, I break the 12 months into 4 weeks each, and so on, breaking those 4 parts into 5 days, keeping in mind the 80/20 rule. I plan the most effective things first. Now I have small daily tasks that, when organized into a bigger picture, add up to a really good year.
To answer a nit-picky question, "No, I don't know what I am doing on Wednesday the 14th of July already." I just know that I have approximately 5 work days, and 2 play days, and projects that need to get done, and goals I want to reach, so that I can build my ultimate life. I might know that May is intended to be garage cleaning month, but for the most part, the daily chores have some flexibility. Its planned to accommodate surprises.
A year long goal is too big to focus on in one day, but just one part of a set of building blocks that add up is easy. And I want my day to be easy. Its not set in stone, its just a map to stay on course. So, when I fail to complete the garage clean out in May, I carry the remainder over to June, and then things really get hectic, so I assess the damages, and make a few sacrifices if needed, and I carry on. The thing is, I remember what is important, and I choose when to work extra, or maybe even dump something until next year if I'm overwhelmed. What I don't do, is blindly give in to my devices, thus giving control back to the mundane everyman in the mainstream.
Try this for yourself, and you'll be amazed how much you can achieve in a year. I also think you'll be amazed to find out how much you could have achieved last year, had you already been creating a plan, and how much time you wasted doing the 80% that didn't matter all that much.
So you have a plan written down, and if you're like me, you may have revised it and edited some things. Now you can put it away until it begins, (in my case January), and when that date arrives...
6. Return to step 1 and Execute Your Plan
Step 1 was mobility. If you'r going to accomplish the big year, you'll need that coffee, or music, or other inspiration each day. You have to follow through. Even if it is imperfect, and falls a little short, like mine does every year, at least you'll know where you stand , and where you're going. When you don't know where you stand, and you don't remind yourself of your goals, and what you want your year to look like, you'll get lost in the mainstream with all the other numb fish, doing what all the other little fishies do. That isn't how dreams are made. Execute. Execute. Execute. Fail, and execute regardless.
Wednesday, November 1, 2017
How: Volume 1
Minimalists are everywhere. Simply put, its just a method of living. Minimalism is a tool to make the most of yourself. And, its imperfect, or only as effective as its user, who is human, and is going to make some mistakes. You can't be an explorer without getting lost. You can't be a warrior without getting hurt. You can't get rid of things without losing something important, just like you can't attain belongings without finding out some of our purchases were completely useless. Progress always comes with failures, the trick is to learn from them, and keep moving forward, and minimalism does include continual course correction. Lost people who become found again are those who make discoveries. Broken warriors who keep fighting win respect and valor. Minimalists who stay true to their course of digging out of their rubble find joy in their lives that others fail to uncover.
Allow me to offer some guidance
Do Not Compare: Comparisons do nothing more than detach you from your own happiness. This isn't the same as inspiration. Go ahead and get inspired by those you look to, as long as you remember they are on their own separate path. Stay present. Stay focused. Most importantly stay true to your own goals, abilities, and achievements.
Do Identify: Identifying what is most important to you helps keep your compass pointing true, which is one of your most reliable tools for reaching, tomorrow, all of the destinations that are out of reach today. For help on figuring out your compass go here: Know thyself.
Do Not Fear: Fearing how others see us is one of the primary vulnerabilities that leads us to buy into the traps of consumerism. Fearing to let go attaches us to ever expanding dead weight that we carry with us along our journey.
Do Declutter Your Spaces: The opposite of fear is freedom, not courage. Courage is action in spite of fear. Alleviation of fear is freedom. We'll need both. Courage to face the fears, and freedom to move. Freedom to walk. Freedom to choose. Freedom to grow. We collect and cling to clutter out of fear. Laying to rest, the dead weight of unnecessary objects, allows flexibility, and freedom.
Do Not Submit to Emptiness: Decluttering opens up opportunity. If we are not thoughtful, and selective, and we refill the room we've just courageously created with new clutter, we've then submitted to our devices, and eliminated our own progress. We've given our opportunity back to our fears. Take time to consider your goals before refilling the emptiness.
Do Timeblock: Think of time management the same way you think of financial management and monitor it even more rigorously. People tend to waste more time than they do money, and although time sometimes feels more abstract, it has a greater finality to it. Spend it wisely.
Do Not Perfect: Perfection will usually derail you from, more than help you stay on your path. Give yourself permission to experiment, and even to err. Everything you are doing is part of an interesting journey. Laugh with it. Learn from it. Improve upon it. There are no right or wrong answers to living.
Do Reflect: We had a goal. What was it? Are we nearer to it? Is our journey enjoyable? Is it all worth the effort?
No destination is worth a lifetime of torture. Yet, no life is worth living that doesn't feed our purpose. Reflecting is nothing more than what we did in the past when we identified and trued our compass. Only now we're re-identifying with the new information we've gathered. Do this again, and again, and again, and always with gratitude for both accomplishments, and learning experiences.
Allow me to offer some guidance
Do Not Compare: Comparisons do nothing more than detach you from your own happiness. This isn't the same as inspiration. Go ahead and get inspired by those you look to, as long as you remember they are on their own separate path. Stay present. Stay focused. Most importantly stay true to your own goals, abilities, and achievements.
Do Identify: Identifying what is most important to you helps keep your compass pointing true, which is one of your most reliable tools for reaching, tomorrow, all of the destinations that are out of reach today. For help on figuring out your compass go here: Know thyself.
Do Not Fear: Fearing how others see us is one of the primary vulnerabilities that leads us to buy into the traps of consumerism. Fearing to let go attaches us to ever expanding dead weight that we carry with us along our journey.
Do Declutter Your Spaces: The opposite of fear is freedom, not courage. Courage is action in spite of fear. Alleviation of fear is freedom. We'll need both. Courage to face the fears, and freedom to move. Freedom to walk. Freedom to choose. Freedom to grow. We collect and cling to clutter out of fear. Laying to rest, the dead weight of unnecessary objects, allows flexibility, and freedom.
Do Not Submit to Emptiness: Decluttering opens up opportunity. If we are not thoughtful, and selective, and we refill the room we've just courageously created with new clutter, we've then submitted to our devices, and eliminated our own progress. We've given our opportunity back to our fears. Take time to consider your goals before refilling the emptiness.
Do Timeblock: Think of time management the same way you think of financial management and monitor it even more rigorously. People tend to waste more time than they do money, and although time sometimes feels more abstract, it has a greater finality to it. Spend it wisely.
Do Not Perfect: Perfection will usually derail you from, more than help you stay on your path. Give yourself permission to experiment, and even to err. Everything you are doing is part of an interesting journey. Laugh with it. Learn from it. Improve upon it. There are no right or wrong answers to living.
Do Reflect: We had a goal. What was it? Are we nearer to it? Is our journey enjoyable? Is it all worth the effort?
No destination is worth a lifetime of torture. Yet, no life is worth living that doesn't feed our purpose. Reflecting is nothing more than what we did in the past when we identified and trued our compass. Only now we're re-identifying with the new information we've gathered. Do this again, and again, and again, and always with gratitude for both accomplishments, and learning experiences.
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